Friday 25 July 2014

The great paradoxical pain and the pill that takes the pain away

If you’ve read pretty much anything I have written or heard anything I’ve said you will know that at the core of my being I believe that every human being is a special one-of-a-kind and that the number role of leadership is to help people to discover their gifts/talents and then enhance them.

The paradox
All of us are sometimes a pain in the backside.

We have our own agendas. We're driven by self-interest. We believe weird things.

Reconciling opposites
I was raised in an either/or world.

The great breakthrough for me came when I realised nothing is this or that, rather both this and that at the same time. Understanding both/and changed everything for me.

We are surrounded by opposites fighting for territory; leadership and management, personal and business, relationships and tasks. The list is endless.

The pill that takes the pain away
Appreciate and accept everything about every person you encounter; the good and the bad, and yes the ugly too. 

And then see every person for who they can be.

When there’s conflict, difficulty, disagreement, see people for who they can be.

When others are being a pain in the backside, see them for who they can be.

What other people do or don’t do has nothing to do with you. You’re responsible for your own intentions, feelings, thoughts, and actions, not other people’s.

If you’re offended, upset, unhappy with what others do or don’t you’ve made that choice.

When you feel bothered by other people, get over it.

We’re all good and bad. Each and everyone one of us is a pain in the backside and a pleasure to be with.

Pain and pleasure. Both/and. No winners, no losers. Life just is. What matters is our approach, our attitude, our intention.

Be the difference you want to see in the world.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
attributed to Plato

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