I'm thrilled to announce my new signature program The Art Of Wise Conversations in small groups and 1:1's
Read all about it here. Begins online on February 1st 2023.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
I'm thrilled to announce my new signature program The Art Of Wise Conversations in small groups and 1:1's
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
I loved having this conversation with Ed Brenegar about trust. I love Ed's work on trust and leadership. There are some links to Ed's work under the video on YouTube.
Become the wise leader you want to be
ian
Here's the link to the substack Conversations That Count.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
I've had the great honour and privilege since 1990 to be in the room with more than a million people as a professional speaker. Audiences have been as small as 5 people and as large as 5000 people.
Half of my 3000+ presentations have been in the smaller (5 - 50 people) workshop, breakout, and peer group settings, where I have been able to observe and interact the most and therefore learn the most.
Since 2012 I've specialised in hosting human being centred conversations with groups of three to nine people. Since 2018 these have mostly been online.
In Wise Leaders Community this means weekly and monthly interaction with the same people. Wise Leaders Community is the current name of what has been several incarnations since I began working with peer groups in 1985. Many clients have been engaged for a decade and some for longer.
Voice, song and music are my favourite metaphors for our essence, our unique personal significance or one-of-a-kind character.
For me a key role of people leadership is the art of seeing, sometimes unearthing, mostly magnifying and enhancing people's essence including your own.
Learn more via this four minutes and 50 seconds podcast.
I updated overviews of these three tools two days ago here.
One of my signature programs is The We Need To Talk Experience. It follows a proven process:
I kick off each episode of We Need To Talk with a story. Prior to the story I make the following statement which has been my presentation opening line for over twenty years.Following my story participants share what they heard themselves say to themselves and then some share a story themselves which leads to further conversation.
This combination of stories and conversations is profound and leads to appropriate action decisions for individuals.
Help is then available as people implement their decisions as well as integrate new learnings with what is already working well.
I coined the term sparkenation in my 2011 book Changing What's Normal. Sparkenation - a spark that ignites passion that leads to action that changes what's normal.
I believe that most of us hang on to the status quo (normal) for too long when it is no longer serving us.
For me sameness is the enemy of significance if it is not serving our best interests and enabling us to live and work in the service of others.
Sparkenation conversations are a hallmark of our work at Wise Leaders Community. There are 48 (as I write this) recorded sparkenation conversations on my YouTube channel here.
To get Storytelling Sparkenation Conversations happening at your workplace, community group, sports club or in your team/cohort please give me a call on +61 418 807 898 and we will begin to design and implement a program together.
Most of our troubles, personal, local, organisational, national, and international, are fundamentally based in our perceived need to hang onto the world in here (my view), our issues with the world out there (other people's views), and, our failure to focus more on the world we share (ours).
The exciting news is that when we find and sustain shared-view (ours) we can triumph over all our troubles.
There's a complimentary online course here that enables you to take action on each of the twelve areas of significance of shared-view.
Heart-Leadership is my latest solo book.
A companion to the book is 28 complimentary videos that you will find here that will help you to live, learn and lead from your heart. 24 of the videos are under five minutes. You will find short and sharp podcasts at the link too.
In 2005 I began applying research completed in 2004 by Dr. Brent Peterson from Columbia University.
He found that 50% of learning happens after an event and 26% prior to an event.
The consequences of applying this research have been profound for my clients.
Learn more about this here. Then apply in your own best way.I created an eight stage process to help my clients to learn and take action.
It’s turned into a way to guarantee innovation and progress.
It’s also a track I use regardless of the kind of work I’m doing or the event I’m conducting.
I’m taking people on a journey from information to insight to inspiration to idea/s to implementation to introspection to integration to innovation. This is my fundamental methodology.
There's a four minutes and 22 seconds podcast about this here.
More recently I have combined the pre and post concept with my 8 stages to innovation methodology. There's an article about this here.
I highly recommend this combined process.
There's a two minutes and forty-six seconds podcast here.
Here is the accompanying blog post.
In the blog I recommend two actions:
I recommend two actions 1) Watch and/or listen to the Seth Godin piece on possibility and enrollment.
2) Undertake my Shifting from reality (what is) to Possibility (What Can Be) exercise. This will help greatly with enrollment.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
This is a guest post by my friend and colleague Richard Merrick.
This is a difficult letter to write. We’ve been together for over forty years, and for the most part, it has been a productive relationship. I’ve made money for you, and you have provided me with a stable way of making a living. We’ve had our ups and downs and spent time apart, but in the end, we found we needed each other and always got back together. This time though, it’s different, and I owe it to you to tell you why.
When we first got together, I was full of enthusiasm, and a hunger born of wanting to prove myself and a need to earn a living. You were a respected part of our community, and even though you could be, well, somewhat assertive; arrogant even, I believed you had my interests in mind and went along with the way you wanted me to dress; managers who used their titles as a proxy for competence, and those funny training courses you got me to do. I was part of a cohort of other people who joined at the same time, and I enjoyed their company as we laughed at your idiosyncracies together.
And you can be a smooth operator when you want to be. I enjoyed the promotions, the money, the toys and the apparent status that came with them. They fed my (not inconsiderable) ego, and I came to define myself on your terms. In some strange version of Stockholm syndrome, I became attached to you even as you consumed my waking hours, kept me away from family, as I progressed up the hierarchy, doing things I didn’t like to people I did to keep other people in “The City” happy.
As in most abusive relationships, I thought I could change you. After all, what you were doing was clearly harming you. The actions we took to look after your short-term obsessions left good people demotivated - inside the company and out. People who just checked out - either physically or mentally (the current obsession with “quiet quitting:” makes me smile. It’s nothing new) and good suppliers who found themselves out in the cold, treated as commodities, not partners for the sake of a fraction of a percentage point of margin.
The first separation, like bankruptcy, happened gradually, then suddenly. As your psychosis deepened and your blind pursuit of “returns” ate ever more surely into the moral fabric I believed you had when we first met, my circumstances changed. Twenty-five years had gone by, and the excuses I had given myself for staying with you - the mortgage and the children’s education - disappeared as my promises to them were fulfilled. All that was left was the counterfeit status, the money and the executive toys. A fairly powerful form of buyer’s remorse set in, and so I handed them back, resolved never to put myself in a position like that with an employer again.
But I still believed in business as a force for good and set out to work independently, with businesses and people I liked, doing things I believed in. They were different - smaller, run by founders for whom the business mattered and who had the agency to be able to make more grounded decisions about the future. (I do have a confession. I did relapse and work for big organisations now and again. I still cannot believe the amount of money people with budgets, rather than ownership, will pay for consultancy that rarely changes anything of substance. It’s as easy as selling botox)
Then we had 2008, the outpouring of money into “too big to fail” and the creation of corporate hegemony. Bigger than business, bigger than politics and when married to technology, we have ourselves a monster. A Wetiko - the mythical beast of North American folklore whose hunger increases in proportion to what it consumes, making it continually ravenous for more.
And so we come to, for me, a second parting. Corporate business has lost its autonomy, and is in a singular thrall to money to the exclusion of all else.
I still believe in business, but we have to reimagine it for society's good. To make it a partner, not a malign master. It is a challenge, but we have to start somewhere.
I think it’s about leadership. It starts with people who want to build a business that reflects their own values rather than those who are happy to compromise and serve remote shareholders with their eyes shut. Businesses that are grounded in communities rather than consuming them. Built by those with an eye for beauty and an instinct for legacy.
It starts with individuals, then small groups, and then groups of groups. It is about communities in their truest sense. If we get the groups right, the rest will follow.
So, corporate business, I’m leaving you for another, altogether more compelling vision of what business can be. And I’m not alone. Those people who are “quietly quitting” are actually quietly joining another idea, because, to borrow a sporting metaphor, you’ve lost the dressing room.
Watching you become who you now are has been sad, but I am no longer interested in rescuing you. I’m not sure anyone can.
Richard
PS I'm with Richard. We're both doing our bit. Learn more about Wise Leaders Community here and New Artisans here.
Most organisations have a lot going on. What I observe in most is that there seems to be no guiding light or compass. This is strategy.
Of course many organisations have strategic plans. Mostly they make interesting reading and yet rarely get executed. You’ll find them on a shelf somewhere gathering dust.
I have had to read 100’s of strategic plans over my three decades as a business advisor and mentor, and for a few years I helped to create them.
In the past thirteen years I have partnered with my clients to separate determining strategy from the plans to execute it. I agree with Alan Weiss that strategic planning is an oxymoron!
The great writer Ernest Hemingway thought the following were six of his best words: For Sale: Baby shoes, Never worn.
Inspired by Hemingway, my friend and colleague Kwai Yu, founder of Leaders Cafe, asked the following question on a LinkedIn discussion: Who are you? Could you tell the story of you in six words?
Kwai received hundreds of extraordinary responses which inspired me to think about a way I could best teach people about strategy! Hence my change of modis operandi.
I now work with my clients to help them describe their strategy in 6 words, at the most in a sentence.
Strategy is the reference point from which we make all decisions about our future direction. It is the guiding light. Tactics are about the what, who, and when. We confuse them at our peril, and to have tactics with no clear strategy means we are going somewhere, however most likely not to the place we really want to go.
My own strategy in a sentence is: "Giving full attention to relationships and allowing outcomes to be a natural consequence."
This guides everything I do. I consider strategy to be the compass that guides our decisions and execution the map.
Imagine if you asked your employees: What is the company’s strategy for moving forward?
And they could give an answer in a sentence that they believe in!
And imagine too if they had their piece of the execution map on one page.
Take your team aside for 20 minutes and ask them to write your strategy in a sentence, compare their insights and then together create your one sentence.
If you’d like some help please give me a shout. My number is +61 418 807 898.
The folk at six word memoirs are doing some great stuff too.
Please listen to the three minutes and 23 seconds podcast here.
I'm one of the pioneers of Plan's-on-a-page.
I swear by them as one of the most magnificent tools there are to help us to take action, sustain momentum, and achieve what's important to us. They are a key conversation focusing tool.
I first created a plan-on-a-page in my notebook with a trusted direct report in August 1989. I called it a Performance Possibility plan-on-a-page.
I had 24 direct reports at the time in multiple locations and 1000’s of mile apart! My deep desire was to find a way to keep everyone on the same page collectively and in individual locations.
People started calling them PPP’s and this label is still used by many of my clients today!
Plans-on-a-page or PPP’s are a remarkable way to
1) Keep focused personally, for a team, for an organisation.
2) Help you and others (particularly those people to whom you have promised to deliver value) to be accountable.
3) Sustain a shared-view with your performance possibility partners (colleagues, mentors) and possibility peers in areas you have agreed are significant. More on partners and peers in next weeks videos, podcasts and blog posts.
4) Own your piece of the execution quilt or jigsaw.
5) Capture in one place the quantum leaps (small yet significant shifts) you’re taking to move from current reality to possibility (your next reality!).
One of my most prized possessions is a small quilt my Grandmother Ruby Sherriff made over 50 years ago. I have wonderful memories of her and husband Fred. They lived less than a mile from me when I was a boy and so I was a frequent visitor to their house.
A vivid memory is Nana making quilts. There'd be a piece here and another over there etc and then one day it would magically come together as one and yet each individual piece stood out.
Little did I know then that Nana's quilts would many years later inspire a remarkable idea.
In business strategy is like a compass and execution a map. For your strategy to be executed every employee needs their unique piece of the map. I call it a quilt map. Performance Possibility Plans (PPPs) are an individuals piece of the quilt.
Visual plans-on-a-page work best. My latest PPP is below. I hope it inspires you to create your own PPP.
If I can be of assistance please give me a shout.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
In this sparkenation conversation Allan Parker and myself explore further how our hearts and minds are allies and how integral the heart/head interconnection is to human being centred, and wise conversations.
There's links to the previous thirteen videos underneath this one on YouTube.
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Ian
There are lots of challenges in business and life in general today and more coming in 2023 right!?
I think the first step to overcoming the headwinds is to get your strategy for 2023 precise and all employees in alignment with it so that who they are and what they do every day counts for you and yet is also meaningful for them.
Could you describe your strategy for success in 2023 in a sentence?I’m offering a small number of strategic reviews. You and I would meet on Zoom for 30 - 45 minutes, and then bring in your key people (up to 8) for another 30 - 45 minutes.
The outcomes will be your strategy for 2023 in a sentence, with buy in from your key people, how to get the buy in of everyone else, and the key tactics for executing your strategy.
Part of what we will look at is the concept of antifragile - from the book by Nassim Nicolas Taleb. Antifragility basically means that instead of being resilient or adaptive you actually get stronger in the face of extreme stressors, chaos, and disorder, or disruption.
We will also tap into the gift of farsight. Learn more about this here via my video playbook.
There’s a small investment required for this service.
Please telephone me in Australian business hours (or 7.30 - 9.30 UK time) to schedule your strategic review. Only 10 available. First in, best dressed!
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Ian
I really valued and enjoyed this conversation with my friend and colleague Richard Merrick. It's a behind the scenes exploration of what wise, new artisan conversations look like.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
Thrilled once more to engage in conversation about conversations with Allan Parker.
In this episode we take a look at caring, calming and considered as integral to wise conversations.
We also begin exploration of heart/head as friends and allies which we will expand on in future conversations.
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Ian
I love Henry Mintzberg and his unordinary posts. His latest "We need a comma between liberal and democracy'. Read Henry's article here.
I highly recommend Henry's book pictured. It provides a blueprint anyone can adopt in your own best way to be Leadership Citizenship and take righting the wrongs into our own hands.
Learn more about the book here.
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Ian
This kind of leadership, it’s actually fake leadership, is driven by self interest, often self-righteousness, greed and profit for the sake of it.
This kind of leadership is both arrogant and ignorant. In my view it’s a major contributor to inflation, lack of climate action, inequality, poor adherence to and provision of basic human rights, domestic violence, you name a society ill!
In 1990 I put forward the following definitions of leadership and management which I believe have stood the test of time:
"Leadership is the art of inspiring people to bring everything they are to everything they do.
Management is the process that means it’s simple for people to bring everything they are to everything they do."
Fake leadership has seen a shift from a society with an economy in it, to an economy with a society in it. This disastrous move has occurred over about 60 years, gradually initially, and rapidly in the past fifteen years or so, accelerating since the GFC of 2007/08.
A key for me is that real leadership demands we be responsible leadership citizens locally, nationally and internationally. This means that we must individually address the challenges facing us, and then collectively change/nuance/modify/regenerate our processes so that the current one’s become obsolete and the new ones fit for purpose.
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”
R. Buckminister Fuller
A key piece of the puzzle is that it's imperative to understand that processes includes policies, principles, practices, procedures, philosophies, systems, structures, ideologies and assumptions.
Become the wise leader you want to be
Ian
PS Being a process innovator is one of the 15 roles wise leaders play well. All of these roles are crucial to being a leadership citizen. Learn more about being a process innovator here.
You can download the playbook for all 15 roles with my compliments here.
PSS I highly recommend you read these two books.
It acknowledges Confucius as the originator of The Golden Rule and puts religions and philosophies into perspective.
"Treat people, all of nature, all things, as you desire to be treated."
Confucius
This book is a treasure trove of wisdom.
Download my full recommended reading list here.
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Ian
In this sparkenation conversation Allan and myself explore trust and trustworthiness and how integral they are to human being centred, wise conversations.
Below the video on YouTube are links to the previous eleven conversations.
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Ian
Breathe in gratitude, breathe out frustration etc, etc.
Breathe in appreciation, breathe out not noticing.
Breathe in happiness, breathe out sadness.
Breathe in harmony, breathe out discord.
Breathe in care, breathe out disregard.
Breathe in compassion, breathe out lack of empathy.
Breathe in kindness, breathe out indifference.
Breathe in health and vitality, breathe out disease and dis-ease.
Breathe in peace, breathe out war.
Breathe in true self, breathe out ego (e.g. attachment to things, expectations and outcomes).
Breathe in abundance, breathe out scarcity.
Breathe in joy, breathe out misery.
Be and become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
I'm excited to release my third video playbook. You can download it here.
It contains a 13 minutes and 42 seconds story that I shared with a We Need To Talk Group. It's all about what I believe are the five fundamentals that you can adopt in your own best way.
There's a podcast version of this video here.
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Ian
The famed English economic historian Adam Tooze predicts that the current policies of central banks and governments will be marked in future textbooks as a “classic moment of failed technocracy”.
This is a quote from a Guardian article by Peter Hannam 23rd September 2022 'Unprecedented events creating ‘extremely severe’ risk of global recession – economist Adam Tooze'. Read the full article here.
I personally subscribe to Adam's 'Chartbook' newsletter. I highly recommend it.
The Guardian article by Robert Reich 25th September 2022 'Corporate greed, not wages, is behind inflation. It’s time for price controls' is a sobering read. I believe it's on the money. Corporate greed is the largest elephant in the room. Read the full article here.
The following is just one of a zillion examples. In a Forbes May 12th 2022 article about food companies (the top ones of which are either food processing or beverage companies!), "soaring inflation has kept the food and beverage industry growing around the world. The tops 25 companies had 1.5 trillion in revenues in the past year, and profits of 155 billion.
Don't get me started on fossil fuel and energy companies! Here's a bit of a taster 'What does government support for fossil fuel subsidies cost our economy and environment?' an ABC News article by Antony Funnell. Read the full article here.
The ABC News article also on 25th September by business reporter Gareth Hutchens 'Did the Reserve Bank's money printing cause inflation? The bank says it's complicated', sheds further light on the very strange actions of Australia's central bankers. Read the full article here.
This article by Yanis Varoufakis 'Inflation as a Political Power Play Gone Wrong – Project Syndicate op-e' takes a different angle. Read the full article here.
In the United Kingdom of course they have gone back to the failed theory of 'trickle down economics'. Dear oh dear. Any reading of Friedrick Hayek, the father of neoliberalism which promotes this nonsense makes me scratch my head that such ideas ever saw the light of day.
More about this in a wonderful article by George Monbiot about the United Kingdom's government idiocy 'Environmental destruction is part of Liz Truss’s plan' Read it all here.
He concludes with this "We should see Truss’s government as an experiment: what happens when neoliberal ultras, schooled by the dark-money think tanks, get everything they want? Result: the economy falls off a cliff, while the fabric of the nation is ripped apart. Conclusion: we should never again let such people near government."
According to RUOK 4 out of every 10 Australian's are suffering stress due to cost of living pressures (apologies I didn't record the sources of this).
Despite all of the above evidence central banks still pursue raising interest rates as their solution to combat inflation. Please Australian Government accelerate the enquiry into the Reserve Bank and get rid of the entire board ASAP, replacing them with people who can think outside the box and come up with multiple solutions that stop punishing people.
And please Australian Government take action now to stop greedy corporations from holding the people to ransom. Start by collecting tax that is overdue and backdate for as long as feasible. Share some of the windfall with people to ease cost of living pressures and help get us back to being a society that includes an economy, not an economy that includes a society.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
Thrilled once more to engage in conversation about conversations with Allan Parker. In this episode we explore the final three pillars of wise conversations: courageous, compete with yourself, and composting.
There's a snapshot of all thirteen pillars below.
Below this video on YouTube you will find links to previous ten conversations.
Letting each other know where we are at personally and what we are working on is a ritual that sets the tone for our conversations and often leads to the topic for discussion.
I think the first words that came out of my mouth where candid. They caused a bit of a stir apparently!
I've never been backward coming forward. I think life's too short for BS.
Not everyone appreciates candour however and therefore being candid can be tricky. I've worked very hard to make sure that my candour means I'm also kind.
3. Convivial
Being convivial as well as candid has taken my communication and conversations to a whole new level.
Some synonyms for convivial: friendly, genial, affable, amiable, congenial, agreeable, good-humoured, cordial, warm, sociable, outgoing, gregarious. We're all capable of these character traits when we're being the best version of ourselves.
There's a lot of truth for me in the following attributed to Fred Kofman, a leader in the conscious business movement:
"Wisdom without compassion is ruthlessness, and compassion without wisdom is folly."
One of the Apostles of the Christian Church is reported to have said, “Faith without works is dead.”
A lot of faiths are dead, dying, or in trouble today because the actions of a few of the faithful betray their stated beliefs. I meet a lot of people more interested in being right than being compassionate for example.
Compassion for me is at the truthful heart of all the world’s religions. Compassion is not a belief, it's a behaviour.
Conscious leadership, conscious business, conscious capitalism are just three current trends. I recommend a google search on consciousness. In my world all conversations are embracing consciousness and particularly focusing on who we are, why we're here, and why understanding our interconnectedness with all living things, including our planet and the universe, is crucial to being the best we can be.
I put together a short paper about compelling conversations with my friend and colleague Gary Edwards.
We say in the paper that every conversation has two aspects: the Task (should we do this thing?) and the Relationship (are you someone that I can trust?). Download the paper here.
Civility for me is more than politeness and good manners. Civility is also about treating people how they expect to be treated (the platinum rule) and never being aggressive or violent.
Having a warm and open heart and a clear mind means being able to be calm regardless of the situation. Being calm includes being patient. A high level of Response Ability is essential to being calm.
Caring begins with self-care. Caring for others is to support them in being fully alive human beings.
All the great conversations are like meeting up with old friends, we pick up where we left off. There is no ending, just progress.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
I'm excited to announce the release of my Wise Leaders Video Playbook #2.
A cracker conversation this with my great mates Glenn Capelli and Allan Parker.
Glenn's four questions:
1) What feels like fun to you but hard work for others?
2) What makes you lose track of time?
3) Where do you get greater returns than the "average" person?
4) What comes naturally to you?
Terry Paul's question What three things are important to you?
Stay tuned for part three. Here's part one.
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Ian
This under three minutes video offers ways to overcome a common challenge.
This is a really great conversation with Claudia Brose.
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Ian
A joy once more to engage in conversation with Allan Parker. This time we take a deep dive into two more pillars of wise conversations - check-in and continuous. We also begin to explore being and becoming as a way of living, learning and leading.
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Ian
I'm please to publish my second teal paper. It's about the seven essentials for attracting and retaining great people:
1. Human being centred conversations.
2. Employee Value Promise on-a-page.
3. Role Clarity Statements.
4. Values Behaviours.
5. Career and Life-calling Card.
6. Learning and Development Plan (personal, professional and play).
7. Performance Possibility Partners (Peers and Mentors).
You can download this paper here.
The first teal paper is about 'Co-creating Happy Being Magnificent Culture'. You can download it here.
Teal represents revitalisation, rejuvenation, open communication and clarity of thought.
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Ian
A joy to be in conversation with Allan Parker once more.
Underneath the video on YouTube are links to parts one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, and eight.
In this video we take a deep dive into two more two pillars of wise conversations, calm and caring.
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Ian
I very much enjoyed and valued this conversation with my friend and colleague Maree Harris.
You'll find links to Maree's work and to people referenced under the video on YouTube.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
I host possibility conversations 1:1 and in peer groups, and provide mentoring and resources as you turn possibility into reality.
A key to the success of these conversations is pre and post work. Learn more about how pre and post are crucial to success here.
A key to pre and post work is assessment of where we're at and where we can shift too.
Following the recent publication of my first video playbook 'Happy Being Magnificent', and my first teal paper 'Co-creating a culture where the majority of people are happy being magnificent, You can download both of these here.
I've accordingly updated my Performance Possibility Pulse Checks Tool to include a pulse check on Happy Being Magnificent. There are now 12 pulse checks to help in pre and post conversation work.
You can download the pulse checks here.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
Great to be in conversation about conversations with Allan Parker once more.
Underneath the video on YouTube are links to parts one, two, three, four, five, six and seven.
In this video we take a deep dive into two more two pillars of wise conversations, compelling and civil.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
I'm very grateful to the 'Conversation About Conversations' series I'm currently recording with Allan Parker.
With Allan's exquisite insights the original five pillars expanded to nine. Other members of Wise Leaders Peer Group also contributed including adding Check-ins.
Letting each other know where we are at personally and what we are working on is a ritual that sets the tone for our conversations and often leads to the topic for discussion.
I think the first words that came out of my mouth where candid. They caused a bit of a stir apparently!
I've never been backward coming forward. I think life's too short for BS.
Not everyone appreciates candour however and therefore being candid can be tricky. I've worked very hard to make sure that my candour means I'm also kind.
3. Convivial
Being convivial as well as candid has taken my communication and conversations to a whole new level.
Some synonyms for convivial: friendly, genial, affable, amiable, congenial, agreeable, good-humoured, cordial, warm, sociable, outgoing, gregarious. We're all capable of these character traits when we're being the best version of ourselves.
There's a lot of truth for me in the following attributed to Fred Kofman, a leader in the conscious business movement:
"Wisdom without compassion is ruthlessness, and compassion without wisdom is folly."
One of the Apostles of the Christian Church is reported to have said, “Faith without works is dead.”
A lot of faiths are dead, dying, or in trouble today because the actions of a few of the faithful betray their stated beliefs. I meet a lot of people more interested in being right than being compassionate for example.
Compassion for me is at the truthful heart of all the world’s religions. Compassion is not a belief, it's a behaviour.
Conscious leadership, conscious business, conscious capitalism are just three current trends. I recommend a google search on consciousness. In my world all conversations are embracing consciousness and particularly focusing on who we are, why we're here, and why understanding our interconnectedness with all living things, including our planet and the universe, is crucial to being the best we can be.
I put together a short paper about compelling conversations with my friend and colleague Gary Edwards.
We say in the paper that every conversation has two aspects: the Task (should we do this thing?) and the Relationship (are you someone that I can trust?). Download the paper here.
Civility for me is more than politeness and good manners. Civility is also about treating people how they expect to be treated (the platinum rule) and never being aggressive or violent.
Having a warm and open heart and a clear mind means being able to be calm regardless of the situation. Being calm includes being patient. A high level of Response Ability is essential to being calm.
Caring begins with self-care. Caring for others is to support them in being fully alive human beings.
All the great conversations are like meeting up with old friends, we pick up where we left off. There is no ending, just progress.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
PS To join in wise leaders conversation check out:
A joy once more to be in conversation about conversations with Allan Parker.
Underneath the video on YouTube are links to parts one, two, three, four, five, and six. You'll find the six videos in one place here.
In this video we take a deep dive into two more two pillars of wise conversations, being compassionate and conscious.
Be and Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
A joy once more to be in conversation about conversations with Allan Parker.
Underneath the video on YouTube are links to parts one, two, three, four, and five.
In this video we take a deep dive into the first two pillars of wise conversations, being candid and convivial.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
I'm thrilled to announce the publication of my first video playbook.
When I've got a knotty problem/challenge my mate Glenn Capelli is a great source to lean on and have a conversation with. He is one of the great thinkers I know.
Glenn and I Zoomed recently for a conversation about Systems Thinking. There'll be more conversations I'm sure!
In this recording Allan and myself explore his work with Matina Jewell about calming conversations.
In this part four we add calm to the pillars of wise, curious, sparkenation conversations.We also add continuous.
More in part five soon.I've upgraded this complimentary online course for you. Here's the course.
The four minutes and three seconds video below introduces the five micro areas I've added to the seven macro areas.
Most of our troubles, personal, local, organisational, national, and international, are fundamentally based in our perceived need to hang onto the world in here (my view), our issues with the world out there (other people's views), and, our failure to focus more on the world we share (ours).
The exciting news is that when we find and sustain shared-view (ours) we can triumph over all our troubles.
Become the wise leader you want to be.
Ian
My LinkedIn newsletter on 22nd June 2022 was about Human being centred designed productivity.
In the article I suggest that productivity is still about efficiency and effectiveness, yet when it’s human being centred designed, efficiency and effectiveness are achieved within a bigger objective of enhancing the human experience as well as human well-being.
1. Disagreement about the outputs (read goal/s, objective/s, or aim/s).
2. Disagreement about how the outputs, goal/s, objective/s, or aim/s will be achieved.
3. Assumption of agreement in 1. And/or 2., and a negative response when such assumptions result in perceived betrayal.
1. Establish that there is agreement concerning the outputs, goal/s, objective/s, or aim/s. Don’t move on until you are absolutely certain there is agreement.
2. State what you can and will do to achieve the outputs, goal/s, objective/s, or aim/s.
3. Ask the other person or people involved to state what they can and will do to achieve the outputs, goal/s, objective/s, or aim/s.
4. State what you feel are the milestones or quantum leaps (small yet significant shifts) that will indicate that you are on track to achieve what you say you will in 2.
5. Ask the other person or people involved to state what they feel are the milestones or quantum leaps that will indicate that they are on track to achieve what they say they will in 3.
6. Agree on the dates and times that you will be in touch with each other to discuss progress and celebrate achievements.
7. Confirm in writing via email or letter your agreements in 2. through 6., and ask for a confirmation response from the other person or people involved.
The secret to collaboration is sustaining shared view.
Collaboration - an essential skill for thriving in the 21st century.
Adopting the above principles in your own best increases the likelihood of our human being intrinsic motivators being met. According to Daniel Pink (in his great book Drive: The Surprising Truth about What Motivates Us), and I agree with him, the key intrinsic motivators are:Once again a great thrill to engage in conversation about conversations with my friend and colleague Allan Parker. Apologies we had some sound wobbles a couple of times.
This time we added Allan's great Stay Above The Line model to the magical mix of ingredients for conversations that count.
Become the wise leader you want to be
Ian