I'm very grateful to the 'Conversation About Conversations' series I'm currently recording with Allan Parker.
With Allan's exquisite insights the original five pillars expanded to nine. Other members of Wise Leaders Peer Group also contributed including adding Check-ins.
Letting each other know where we are at personally and what we are working on is a ritual that sets the tone for our conversations and often leads to the topic for discussion.
I think the first words that came out of my mouth where candid. They caused a bit of a stir apparently!
I've never been backward coming forward. I think life's too short for BS.
Not everyone appreciates candour however and therefore being candid can be tricky. I've worked very hard to make sure that my candour means I'm also kind.
Being convivial as well as candid has taken my communication and conversations to a whole new level.
Some synonyms for convivial: friendly, genial, affable, amiable, congenial, agreeable, good-humoured, cordial, warm, sociable, outgoing, gregarious. We're all capable of these character traits when we're being the best version of ourselves.
There's a lot of truth for me in the following attributed to Fred Kofman, a leader in the conscious business movement:
"Wisdom without compassion is ruthlessness, and compassion without wisdom is folly."
One of the Apostles of the Christian Church is reported to have said, “Faith without works is dead.”
A lot of faiths are dead, dying, or in trouble today because the actions of a few of the faithful betray their stated beliefs. I meet a lot of people more interested in being right than being compassionate for example.
Compassion for me is at the truthful heart of all the world’s religions. Compassion is not a belief, it's a behaviour.
Conscious leadership, conscious business, conscious capitalism are just three current trends. I recommend a google search on consciousness. In my world all conversations are embracing consciousness and particularly focusing on who we are, why we're here, and why understanding our interconnectedness with all living things, including our planet and the universe, is crucial to being the best we can be.
I put together a short paper about compelling conversations with my friend and colleague Gary Edwards.
We say in the paper that every conversation has two aspects: the Task (should we do this thing?) and the Relationship (are you someone that I can trust?). Download the paper here.
Civility for me is more than politeness and good manners. Civility is also about treating people how they expect to be treated (the platinum rule) and never being aggressive or violent.
Having a warm and open heart and a clear mind means being able to be calm regardless of the situation. Being calm includes being patient. A high level of Response Ability is essential to being calm.
Caring begins with self-care. Caring for others is to support them in being fully alive human beings.
All the great conversations are like meeting up with old friends, we pick up where we left off. There is no ending, just progress.
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