One of the most valuable skills I've learned and continue to hone in my public speaking work is the pause.
Long ago my speaking coach David Griggs taught me to never speak while moving on the stage, rather to wait until I was still. Another coach Max Dixon calls the pause 'a beat beyond.'
I've learned that careful and considered short pauses, and sometimes long ones, are powerful ways for engaging an audience small and large. I've also learned that silence is indeed golden.
Yet most of all I've learned the power of the pause in every day life. I believe the pause as Viktor Frankl describes it to be your most important space.
W. Mitchell says: “It’s not what happens to you. It’s what you do about it”
Whatever happens to you this week, don’t react. Instead pause, use the space, and then respond in a way that will likely lead you and others to the best possible future.
The moment something happens it’s the past. We can’t change the past. We can respond in the present in ways that determine a better future.
Everything depends on how we use this most valuable space, the tiny moment between stimulus and response.