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This post is the Collaborate chapter of the book.
In a nutshell
Every problem/challenge in our world today (and in your life) is a human one. Every solution has relationships with other humans at heart.
My friend and colleague Keith Abraham says: “Achievement is never an individual activity.”
And it’s literally about matters of the heart.
As reflected in the compete with yourself exercise to change an outcome/results we must modify/or change intention, feelings, thoughts, behaviours/actions. Intention and feelings are the fertile ground and ploughing, the hard work!
“Most of us think about ourselves as thinking creatures who feel but we are feeling creatures who think, and we live in a society that values what we think over what we feel”
Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a leader in the world of neuroscience.
There’s a link to a great TEDx talk by Jill at the companion resources web page under Action 2 - Collaborate.
The other side of the compete with yourself coin is collaborate.
3 Recommended Actions
1) Write down your greatest collaboration or relationship story and one where you failed. Who will you become and what will you do next to better live the lessons from these experiences?
2) Review the seven special steps to successful collaboration on pages 99, 100 of Changing What’s Normal with your team/performance partners and explore changes/modifications you could make to your relationships. The seven steps are available for your convenience at the companion resources web page.
3) a) Review your diary for the past month. Are more than 75% of your actions some form of communication or conversations with family, friends, colleagues and stakeholders? How could you better invest your time and energy to build and grow high value mutually rewarding relationships? b) Choose a theme song for collaboration and play it regularly to get into the state right for you.
Recommended Deep Work
1) If you have not yet watched the compete/collaborate video and started to make the compete with your yourself and improve relationships exercises part of your routine then now is a good time to start You'll find this at the companion resources web page.
2) For your business/organisation staying in touch with customers/clients and continually adding value to the ways you delight them is fundamental to remaining relevant and successful. Explore with your team how you could better utilise the contact-connection-common-ground-commitment as a service-sales-experience and value adding cycle.
3) What is a major collaboration you have thought about however not yet acted on? Who will you become and what will you do next to better turn your thoughts into reality?
"You lead best when the best version of you, leads the best version of us."