For just over 3 years I have been consciously leading with and responding to what happens with my heart first and then my head. I was in the habit of leading and responding habitually with my head.
Since I've made this shift my energy has increased. I'm clearer, calmer and more considered. As a consequence I'm more valuable, and my impact and contribution are greater.
My discoveries include the following:
Your heart always knows.
Feelings are different to thoughts.
Feelings come from your heart.
We are feeling creatures who think (HT to Dr Jill Bolte Taylor).
“Most of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, but we are actually feeling creatures that think.” Dr Jill Bolte Taylor
Feelings are an inner knowing.
Feelings have a different energy, a different frequency or vibration to thoughts.
Thoughts are from our past. Feelings are from our present and future.
The heart knows why and what, the head how, and the hands take care of who, what, where and when.
I have come to understand that this is the natural order of things. I learned and practiced for much of my life that the head ruled and that the brain was in control.
In my Heart-Leadership book I use Harmony, Heart, Head, Hands, Happenstance as a mnemonic and for the flow of book.
Harmony within ourselves is a precondition to hear our hearts, ask our heads and then engage our hands. Happenstance (coincidence, serendipity, synchronicity) follows.
The great challenge for me has been learning to hear my heart first and getting my head to wait until asked.
In your life and work are you leading and responding with your heart or your head?